What NOT to Wear to Military Functions

I’ve been inspired this week by the upcoming Air Force Ball and Miley Cyrus’s wardrobe at the VMA’s. Even if you are not a military brat or a spouse, you might at some point in your life end up at a military function. For instance a promotion ceremony or a pilot training graduation.  One rule of thumb that makes it easy is to match the person in uniform you are going with, however, make sure to always dress modestly and with class. You are a direct reflection of the person you are with, so make them look good! You can always ask yourself, what would Kate Middleton do? WWKMD.

Let’s start with the ABU or Flight Suit:

Now this is the most casual you will dress, besides of course the PT uniform. This would probably be an event like a squadron potluck or an assignment night. If you are really nervous about what to wear, I say wear a tee dress with a statement necklace. Here are some pictures for reference (pictures might be outdated):

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Oh Tom…. Ok, back to business!

If they are wearing this, you will wear something casual but cute.  This could be anything from jeans and a cute top to a sundress – so if you are not sure, wear something in between. Probably not the place to bring out your crop top or your cut off shorts, you might run into his boss or his work friends.  Also, this is what you would wear to spouse socials, such as OSC/ESC. Here are some examples:

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Air Force Blues: (This is going to look similar to a suit)

This is most likely to be worn at Change of Command ceremonies, retirements, promotions, and graduations.

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So if they are wearing this, you will wear something similar to what you would wear to a wedding – a sundress, a lace dress, a nice maxi dress, etc. I’d say avoid spaghetti straps, but a modest strapless dress would be appropriate. Some great places to shop for these occasions would be Banana Republic, Ann Taylor, Anthropologie, LOFT, and J. Crew. As a rule of thumb, don’t get your dresses from somewhere you shopped in High School, like American Eagle or Forever 21 – not that you can’t find a good one there ( I have a few), but you are most likely OVER 21 now, wear adult clothing.  Here are some examples:

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And here is a Kate example:

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WHAT NOT TO WEAR:  These dresses all have a place, but not to an event where your military member is wearing his/her blues.

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And finally, Mess Dress:

This is the fanciest you will get, and when I say fancy, I mean fancy-fancy. I’m not talking Easter Sunday, I’m not talking holiday party, I’m talking full length gown fancy.  So please don’t show up in a sundress.  If you are nervous about wearing a full-length gown, wear a fancy short cocktail dress. That is acceptable. Just make sure to have on some sparkle, cute shoes, and a clutch. Here is what it will look like:

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It is best to wear a full length gown or a fancy cocktail dress.  No poof, no see through, no low back, no side-boob, not a ton of cleavage, and no train. We are NOT talking your prom dress.  If your 16 year old self would have worn it to Homecoming, DO NOT WEAR IT TO A MILITARY FUNCTION. Channel Kate Middleton when you are shopping.  Great places to shop are BCBG MaxAzria Outlet, Nordstrom Rack online, Saks Fifth Avenue’s OFF Fifth, the J. Crew wedding section, and Rent the Runway! Here is what I would wear (and disregard the hanger straps – it seems it doesn’t matter how many times I stuff them back in, they always pop out!!! So maybe learn from me and just cut them off) :

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Here are a few more examples of what would be appropriate (disregard any trains):

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And here is what NOT to wear:

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Remember, you are a direct reflection of your spouse, your friend, or your family member – make them look good! It is not all about you and how hard you’ve worked all Summer to look good in that dress.  But YES, you can still have a lot of fun with it and be yourself, just not the Kim Kardashian version of yourself. Bring her out when you go to Vegas.

 

However, if your man is wearing this:

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You should wear this:

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I mean, obviously.

DRESSEMBER: Week 1

“Sex trafficking is a form of modern slavery in which someone coerces another person into commercial sex or exploits a child in the commercial sex trade. Simply, it is sexual violence as a business. The nightmare of forced prostitution thrives when law enforcement cannot or does not protect vulnerable children and women.”  – International Justice Mission

To think that this is happening to MILLIONS of children and women all over the globe infuriates me and inspires me want to do something about it.  So when I heard about Dressember, an event that involves wearing dresses every day in order to raise money and awareness in the fight against human trafficking, it was pretty obvious what I had to do: Team up with some beautiful ladies and join the movement!

You can see the rules and learn about the movement HERE!

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Support our team here!

I think everyone has a cause that makes their heart heavy and this is mine. Instead of pouring ice water on my head I’ve decided to do this! I am going to try to post once a week to show you what dresses I’ve worn during the cold winter.  (Should be fun in Germany….)

DECEMBER 1:

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I had the day off from work, so I wore a maxi dress and knit on the couch almost the whole day – I’ve gotta say, I love me some maxi.

DECEMBER 2:

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Silk dress + booties + festive sweater = perfect holiday work outfit! I just love mint green during the holidays, its the less obvious winter color that I just can’t get enough of.

DECEMBER 3:

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Dressember — Made possible with boots and cozy jackets.

DECEMBER 4:

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Sweatshirt dresses can be worn to work with a fabulous blazer and a sparkly necklace!

DECEMBER 5: Christmas Party!

IMG_8486Yes the panther dress makes another appearance! I mean, what dress could be more perfect for your first work party that says “I’m classy but SUPER FUN!” than a dress with gold panthers on it?

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(yes that is a cat hair on my dress… don’t judge)

DECEMBER 6: Christmas Shopping

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Ok, this really is my formula for looking chic:  Over-the-knee boots + sheer tights+ mini dress + long jacket + long simple necklace.  SO EASY and warm!

DECEMBER 7: Church

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Oh yes leather and velvet.  This outfit will probably be repeated…. I just can’t get enough velvet, and my husband got me this awesome leather jacket for Christmas! WANT TO WEAR IT EVERY DAY.

Mary Katherine is another member of our team who is very passionate about this cause as well AND has impeccable style…. I mean check out this layering! She is amazing.  Get inspired by her looks this week:

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So this is week one, more to come next week! (And they will be in Germany!!) Come support our team and help us support International Justice Mission in their fight against this horrible abuse.

Birthday Panthers

Oh it was a good birthday: Gerber daisies, caramel flan latte, doughnuts, strawberry cake, and a panther dress.

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My birthday is a day where I allow myself to wear whatever I want, and that means I get dressy.  That also means I get a lot of Oklahoman stares. But guess what, I don’t care! It’s my birthday , I’M GONNA WEAR A DRESS WITH PANTHERS ON IT!

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I seriously could not resist this dress. Let me say this again, it has PANTHERS on it.  Anthropologie gets me. Also my husband loves it, which makes me happy. He gets me too.

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I did try to dress it down a teensy bit with booties, a blue belt and a safari jacket… however, it didn’t stop the stares.

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Here is a dressier way to wear it, tights, black booties, fancy necklace…

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I came to the conclusion that I should just wear what I want all the time.  I feel WAY more fabulous and confident when I am put together. Haters gonna hate, people.  Plus, you want friends who love you no matter what you wear.  Even if it has sparkly big cats on it.

Wear to find:

Panther Dress: Similar , Similar, Similar

Simple Necklace: Niloulu

Safari Jacket: Madewell

Brown Booties: SimilarSimilar

Belt: Similar

Layered Gold Necklace: Niloulu

Black Booties: SimilarSimilar

Black & White Dress

So when I told my husband how I wanted to post more about what I wore everyday instead of just every once in awhile, he started laughing so hard he fell on the floor.  Ok, so I wear a lot of lounge clothes. I admit it. But, I can still get dressed up to go to the grocery store! Another reason why I substitute teach, I can wear my cute dresses and patterned pants.

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Black and white dresses are awesome because you can wear them during any season and you can wear almost any type of shoe and any type of accessory.   In fact, if you follow this blog I’m sure you will see a lot of black and white dresses.

A lot of times I put a bright belt with this dress, but today I decided to go with a more classic look and put my gold belt and clear bead statement necklace with it.

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I added a touch of color with this great hunter green jacket from LOFT.

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Finally I added this great metallic grey scarf to add a little extra layering and also to be more conservative at work.

You can see how easy it is to layer in the winter! If it was freezing I would have added tights, and worn a long coat over the small blazer.

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Where to find:

Black and White Dress

Clockwise from top left:

1. LOFT 2. Anthropologie 3. Anthropologie 4. Banana Republic 5. Old Navy 6. Forever 21

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Colored Blazer, Similar (ON SALE)

Brown Boots, Similar

Gold Belt, Similar

Clear Bead Statement Necklace

Scarf, very similar